Whatever you say to yourself, about yourself, you will believe; and you will become what you believe. What do you say to yourself about yourself? Do you constantly feed your mind positive information about how much you love yourself as you are today? Do you tell yourself how successful you are as an individual? Do you set goals for yourself and use positive self-talk to motivate and encourage yourself to accomplish your goals?
Every time you make a negative statement about yourself, you are directing you subconscious mind to become that person. Unfortunately, our minds have been programmed by others since the day we were born- some good and some bad. As a result, in order to make significant changes on the inside is never easily accomplished because any attempt to improve must be filtered through our old programming. And the longer you have believed something about yourself the more difficult it will be to change.
So if you want to improve and change, you will first have to see yourself in a different way. In order to see yourself differently, you will have to talk to yourself differently. Self-change will require you to modify your old programming with a new version of positive self-talk.
I would like to share with you some positive self-talk ideas I picked up from Dr. Shad Helmstetter’s book What To say when You Talk To Yourself.
Five Positive self-talk ideas
1) When you use self-talk, always say it in the present tense as if the change in habit has already taken place.
Self-talk examples: “I take full responsibility for living my life in a way that creates my happiness, my attitude, my beliefs, and my actions, in the past, present, and future.”
“I am really very special. I like who I am and feel good about myself. Although I work to improve myself every day, I like who I am today.”
2) You must give life to your self-talk. Write out your self-talk scripts and say them out loud. Visualize pictures in your mind of the person you are describing. Internalize your self-talk to give it a personal meaning. When you take ownership of your self-talk in this manner you will start to overcome your fears, become a doer, and achieve your goals.
3) Setting goals and accomplishing them is important in building confidence, self-esteem, and happiness. But any act of working toward any goal will present failure and problems and the challenge to solve them. What we believe about those problems and how we look at them will play an important role in how we handle them. Do we avoid problems or confront and solve them. To overcome the many challenges you will face will require you to change your language to use the right words and right directions.
Self-talk example: “Failures and problems are my teachers. They help me learn and grow. Without them I would be going nowhere. With them, I am learning and moving forward.”
4) Motivation affects everything you do – it creates every action both positive and negative. The emotions of fear, anger, despair, concern, pride, love, joy, compassion, and elation are some of our primary emotional motivators. These are the emotions that turn our actions in a direction toward submission. The secret is in learning how to redirect our emotions to generate positive actions. The power is within you to direct yourself positively with the right language to yourself.
Self-talk examples: “Nothing stops me. I have a lot of determination. I turn problems into advantages. I find possibilities in every situation.”
“I know I can accomplish anything I choose; I refuse to let anything negative hold me back or stand in my way.”
5) How we react to unexpected and uncontrollable events is the truest test of your self-control and attitude. A negative thought in reaction to an unexpected event will only set off a chain reaction of negative emotions and actions. With positive self-talk, you can stay in control and change your reaction, setting off a positive cycle of feelings and actions. Making the best of any situation plays an important role in your mental and physical health. Make an effort to be aware of your reactions to unexpected events; focus on giving yourself the right words to positively control your feelings and actions.
Self-talk example: “Slow moving traffic is not a problem for me. I enjoy the time to organize my thoughts and think about things beneficial to me.”
Help improve your self- image by taking positive actions today – simply start to change your programming by talking to yourself with positive language. Write out your positive self-talk scripts for the goals you wish to accomplish for yourself. When you change your beliefs about yourself you will generate more positive feelings and actions, which will lead to successful results.
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